The One Thing About Love: You Can Do It!
The one thing about love is you can do it and another thing about love is only you can do it.
Why are you so scared of what love will look like? So scared that you refused to get out of the bed, out of that door. Every time you hear footsteps, you hold on to your blanket a little tighter. The blankets are warm, and the bed is familiar, but what about the light? You are not scared of love, love. You are scared of the love you will receive, or rather, the love won’t receive. All you think is, what if you love and forget to be loved?
The nightmare creeping in the window had you worried yesterday. Won’t it fade with time? The shadows will always be there. It was hard yesterday, and it won’t be easy tomorrow. But it would be yours to feel. And the joy to be human and love this intensely.
Let’s say you got a gift for your birthday. You take it with a smile and see how you feel about it, see how your mind reacts to it. The job of the gift giver is done. They will not ask you for a return gift, neither will they wallow in grief if you don’t give them the same gift. What you do with that is your job. Your job is to love, to give the gift of love. When you do, get up and get out of that door and see the love. Grab it and hold it. Your job is to love, not ask for love. For a moment, consider the beauty. To give the gift of love and in-process gift and in the process to give yourself the joy of love.
When you love, know that your work is only to love. To give your hundred percent to people you love. What they do with your gift of love is not your job. In simple words, it’s none of your business. Your work is to love. And mind you, the notion of unconditional love is created by us. But love in all of its wholeness is unconditional. When pronouncing the word love, every human means to say to give the soul and the body as a gift without any expectation. The longing you feel in your heart is nothing but a longing to do your part in the most beautiful experience of human life. And to understand loving someone is your work. What they do with it, what they give back is not your burden to carry.
“All our suffering is rooted in expectations.” — Buddha
Yes, it is easier said than done, but what isn’t? This applies to another aspect of your life, too. Like when you text someone and feel uneasiness, tell yourself. Your job was to text, and you have already done that. What they do with that text is their job. Even if you wait eagerly and worry too much about it, you can’t control when and how they reply. And if you can’t control something, what is the point of worrying and beating yourself with it? It certainly doesn’t change anything.
So next time you feel scared, take a look around and think how you had done everything you could when the ball was in your court. All you could do is keep loving and living! Your job is done and how the other person plays is not your control.
